Midlife Crisis? Fluck That. It’s a Bloody Awakening
Midlife Myth Busted: The Shit They Don’t Tell You About Flourishing
Welcome to this Myth Busting Special Series as I delve into myths and pick them apart as a not-so-gentle reminder that you can Flucking Flourish after forty, fifty and beyond!
Alright, Queenagers, it’s time to dismantle one of the most dramatic myths ever peddled: midlife equals crisis. Fluck that shit! Society loves to act like the second you hit midlife, you’re on the verge of buying a red sports car, moving to Bali, or going full-on existential meltdown. Midlife doesn’t need rescuing—it needs flucking celebrating!
Sure, maybe you’re feeling a little restless, or the life you’ve been living isn’t exactly lighting you up anymore. But here’s the real banana peel: this isn’t a crisis—it’s an awakening. It’s an unravelling. It’s a the butterfly coming out of the cocoon!
The Myth: Midlife = Crisis
This myth makes it sound like everyone over 40 is one emotional breakdown away from tossing their life into chaos. It’s all doom and gloom, with people assuming that midlife is the time when you panic about your wrinkles, realise you haven’t ticked off enough boxes, and start chasing the fountain of youth in all the wrong places.
What the actual? Is that all they think we’ve got to look forward to?
The Truth: Midlife = Awakening
Let’s flip this tired old narrative, shall we? The truth is, midlife is not about crises—it’s about finally waking the fluck up to what you really want. It’s about realising that life doesn’t have to be lived on autopilot anymore. Maybe you’ve spent decades juggling everyone else’s expectations—career, family, society—and now it’s your time to go deep and ask yourself: “What do I actually want?”
For many of us, this is the first time we truly stop, take a breath, and reassess what’s working in our lives—and what’s flucking not.
Real-Life Example: From Corporate-Busy to Swedish Death Cleaning
Meet Åsa Nilsson. A Swede who grew up in the USA, who felt the pull of her roots and left her busy, cram-packed corporate life to move back to her birth country and is now a Swedish Death Cleaner!
What the heck is that? I hear you ask. She helps people prepare for death in way that honours the living by not leaving behind a complete disaster. This was no midlife crisis! This was a full bodied “yesss” to something that lights her up! She’s even convinced her life partner, Thomas, to join her. Check out her YouTube channel for more.
Åsa is a perfect example of what happens when you step away from the patriarchal ways of living and move towards an aligned and awakened life! And she’s helping others at the same time. Win-win for the win!
Actionable Takeaway: How to Shift from Crisis to Awakening
Here’s how to flip the script on this “midlife crisis” nonsense and turn it into an awakening:
Reframe the Restlessness – That niggling feeling that something isn’t right? It’s not a crisis; it’s your intuition tapping you on the shoulder, telling you that it’s time for a change. Lean into it, rather than resisting it.
Reassess, Don’t Regret – This is a key part of the awakening. Midlife is when you get to look at your life with fresh eyes. Instead of seeing it as “what have I missed?”, ask, “What do I want to add?” What lights you up now? What dreams did you shelve that you’re ready to dust off? No regrets, just redirection.
Own Your Power – You are not in a midlife crisis—you’re in a midlife power surge. A walking lightning storm. You’ve never been more capable, more confident, or more flucking ready to take life by the horns. Own that, and start making decisions that feel aligned with who you are now, not who you were told you had to be.
Quick Pep Talk:
Here’s what I need you to remember: Midlife is a flucking gift. (And let’s face it, the alternative is a little bit shit). It’s the point in life when you can stop worrying about everyone else’s opinions and start living life on your terms. It’s not about breaking down—it’s about breaking free.
Your Turn!
Now it’s your turn, Queenager—what’s your midlife awakening? Have you had a moment where you realised midlife wasn’t a crisis at all, but an opportunity to rewrite your own damn story?
Let me know in the comments, or hit reply and tell me all. Let’s embrace this flucking flourishing awakening together!
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Nailed it, again, Queen. I'm all for everything here. Bull by the horns, and Brodeo-ing right beside you.
Well, this was a treat to read this fine Sunday morning! Thank you, Lisa, for including me in your world today. And you are not just whistling Dixie when you say that it's our time, time to redesign the life we actually want versus going through life on autopilot. No more flucking autopilot, nope. Conscious living from here on out. Big hugs, Åsa